The "Minefield"

When words like "THOT" and "thirsty" are so frequently tossed around on social media it's no wonder the younger generation is desensitized to love.

To me words like these undermine sexuality, sensuality, chivalry and general politeness. I can't message someone "hey," without them thinking it's because I want the D. Or, if I actually like someone I can't overtly display affection because dating has become a sick game of who can make the other feel more with little or no-intention of feeling the same.

These days everyone has trust issues. But, my trust issues come with an interesting twist.

We've all heard of the wall around the heart. The metaphorical obstacle surrounding the affections of someone you care for. Trying to get over it often feels impossible, but once on the other side it's all worth it (or at least that's what I've picked up from movies). The bricks of any wall have been crafted from daddy-issues, low self-esteem, poor prior relationships, etc. The list goes on.

While, I do have my acquired share of trust-issues I don't have a wall. To on-lookers I have a naive air about me. I manage to ungracefully fumble into "like" with someone quite often and rather easy. I take what they tell me at face value, because why lie? We are not invested in each other yet. As time goes on there are things I share with said person (family issues, past experiences, expectations, etc.), all the while assuming that they are hearing me and getting to know me.

Though things may be fine and dandy this person fails to realize  that they are in a minefield. No, I didn't have you jumping threw hoops when we met, but like most people I still have my issues. When pursuing a romantic relationship some behavior is not tolerable. Sometimes without even meaning to a guy could step on a "mine" and kill himself in my eyes.

More often than not most guys just graze themselves in the field at first with small things that infuriate most females; forgetting to call or making light of feelings. Then there are the DOA mines: lying, cheating, lying about cheating......

There are also some mines that are repeatedly transgressed, such as being inconsistent. I understand people are busy, we're both young with goals, the ball drops on occasion, but if you are consistently inconsistent there is no quick end for you. I feel as a man, everything you say out of your mouth is a promise. If you ruin that I feel it's completely justified if I drive you insane. I am liable to become the epitome of "Heartless," by Kanye West.

5 a.m. breakfast time. Thanks for reading!